I have three gorgeous kids. I love spending time with them. I do. They make me laugh, they make me giggle, they amuse me with their cute antics, and I thank God daily for my three healthy, beautiful babies.
They also frustrate me, irritate me, and have a knack of bringing out the “nagger” in me.
When I was still working full-time, I missed having time with the kids.
And now that I am at home the whole day (and night with them), I got to admit… I miss being alone. You know, I would be able to go to the bathroom without a little boy knocking on the door, screeching, “But I need to peeeeee nooooooooooowwwww Mummy!!” I would like to be able to savour a good meal, instead of having to shovel spoonfuls of my Japanese curry rice down my throat while trying to keep up to Zoie’s pace of swallowing her favourite ramen noodles (which is just one mode – non-stop). I would love to be sitting in a hair salon for 3 or 4 hours, just getting my hair done. I would love to go for a pedicure and a manicure. My friends back in Singapore would be shocked I reckon – but my poor nails haven’t seen the inside of a nail salon for more than a year! *cue the melodramatic music* I have been thinking about getting those adult colouring books, but I’ve put that off, cos I know it will probably sit on my shelf, taking up valuable space, as I don’t really think I have the luxury of sitting down and doing nothing but colouring. As tempting as that sounds. I have that basket of dirty laundry to do. And that other basket of clean laundry to fold and keep. And once that’s done… whatd’ya know? Another basket of dirty laundry pops up!
But I have to admit, it was easier getting “me-time” back in Singapore. It was a combination of having the security of a monthly, fixed salary, coupled with a LOT of family support to help me look after the kids so that I could sneak off to my favourite hairdresser for a fix, or to have a facial, or to have a cup of Starbucks. Even while working, I enjoyed time with ADULTS (as opposed to, you know, mini-adults) and having proper, stimulating, engaging conversation.
So carving some me-time while here in Sydney has been challenging. Not impossible. Just challenging.
Yes, I am a mummy. But I am also me. And to be a good mum, I also need to be a good me. So having some alone, me-only recharging and renewing and rejuvenating time is important, for my mental state of being.
So how do I manage? On a shoestring budget and in a place where my closest friends are an ocean away?
Well, that’s just it. I manage. Sometimes, “me-time” isn’t about the quantity of time away from kids, it’s really about the quality of time.
A long, hot shower. (And I make sure everyone knows I am going to bathe, and if they need to use the toilet, they’d better do it noooooooow!)
I catch my favourite shows on TV. And getting the Apple TV was probably one of our best buys. That, coupled with a few choice apps on our iPads means that we have access to shows like Suits & Criminal Minds (two of my favourite), catching up on the latest episodes of Masterchef Australia, or even watching Running Man (my favourite TV game show, even if I can’t understand a word of Korean haha!)
Grocery-shopping / window-shopping on my own. And the words “on my own” being the operative ones here. It may just be in my neighbourhood shopping centre, but just walking on my own, without having to constantly keep an eye out for a wandering toddler is heavenly. In fact, grocery shopping with the kids in tow is often an expensive and unproductive one – we spend too much time in the snack aisle and not enough time in the “proper food” aisle. And trying to think of what to cook for the week’s meals can be challenging when your 4-year-old gags when you pick up a tomato, and goes, “Eww, mummy, are you buying a tomato?”
How about you? How is your Mummy “me-time” like?
This post is written as part of an ongoing blog train, hosted by PrayerFull Mum, and you can catch up on the full list of other mummy bloggers and how they spend their “me-time”!
Waiwai is a full-time-working-mum to a 7-year-old girl and a 6-year-old boy. She blogs about her parenting journey at PeiPei.HaoHao. Hop over her blog tomorrow to find out how she tries to find some me-time!