The Little Lady Of The House

Zoie Sep 2014

Meet Zoie. 16 months of age.

She has the sweetest smile and cutest dimples, but truly a little tigress in the making.

She doesn’t walk as yet. I say “doesn’t” cos she can easily cruise along, and stumble when we hold her hands, and she can crawl up a flight of stairs unaided. So I reckon it is simply a choice she is making now.

I don’t blog about her enough, I think, so let me use this post to recount her milestones thus far. (I know full well the limits of my memory, so jotting what she can achieve is probably my only hope of remembering.)

First Few Words:

Chocolate.”

“Maameee.” (YES! *fist pump in the air*)

“Kor-Kor.” (Term she calls her older brothers).

“No-no-no-no.” (With a finger wag too.)

“ssssssss.” (Meaning yes. Give me that biscuit/cookie/milk NOW.)

“I-you.” (Short for I love you)

“Bye-eee.”

Fine Motor Skills:

She can one-finger-swipe the iPad like a pro.

Zoie blocks

She loves such toys, and can play them pretty well. Compared to her two older brothers at this age, she seems waaaaay more advanced than them (in this aspect in particular).

Fave food:

zoie fruit

She eats well – but she prefers to feed herself (fine by me!). She loves holding on to pieces to chicken or fruit and taking a bite by herself. She has a penchant for chocolate (oops) and fruits (phew!) but mostly is game to try anything. A Chinese girl through and through – she loves her noodles!

My weakness when it comes to Zoie is… clothes. I love browsing for new outfits for her, and the thing about living in a country that experiences the four seasons is a double-edged sword. Sure, you get to buy awesomely cute sweaters and jumpers and tights… but it also means you need a wardrobe overhaul once the hot weather hits! So I love shopping and buying her new clothes is no issue – but shopping on a budget isn’t as fun. Well, I make do with select pieces from Target (I like their in-house designs) as well as my online shopping addiction with Carters and Gap. In fact, *cough* I may have just bought a LOT of clothes online, to be sent to Singapore, and for me to cart back when we go back for a holiday!

So there you have it – my little dragon princess. The apple of our eye, and adored by her brothers.

I am blessed. :)

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Messy Me Versus The House

sahmThere are some women who are born to be homemakers. As in, they have the natural flair and God-given ability to keep their kitchen sparkling clean and smelling lemon-ly nice, with crisply ironed clothes hanging off impeccable clothing racks, and with beds that are nearly tucked in and pillows well-fluffed. There are sweet smells of chickens a-roasting and cakes a-baking, and there are clean tables and neat cupboards. And where the cupboards are filled with containers that are cutely labelled and fridges with yummy overnight oats. They are probably best buds with Martha Steward.

I wish I was one of those women. But Martha may well choke on her pecan pie if she saw the state of my house.

So alas, it wasn’t meant to be. I didn’t choose to be a housewife. But the housework sure chose me.

There are things that I can do. I can cook. Though not spectacularly well. I can iron. Though not spectacularly well. I can clean. Though not spectacularly well.

Do you see the pattern here?

Oh, the woes of a homemaker who isn’t that good at making homes (and beds and dinners).

But I have my moments. My moments where I will have the urge to take up that bottle of Easy Off Bam Power Cleaner to attack the soap scum in the bathroom; or that carpet cleaner powder to scrub the stairs, or to re-arrange the kitchen cupboards and store my stuff neatly. These are but short spurts, like fireworks – bright, intense, full of intent and passion… And fizzling in the reality of the cold, cold, night.

And I know I am not alone in my silent screams and anguished cries against the Tyrant that is unceasing household chores. There are many of you, like pyjama-clad me, out there. With that laundry bin that never runneth out and the sink that overfloweth.

And what are we against that Tyrant, and how shall our once oh-so-beautifully manicured hands stand up to the harsh chemicals and soap suds and grime?

So we do what we can. Rage against the machine one swipe at a time, one rinse at a time and one laundry load at a time. Pushing back on the darkness and mess that threatens to form. Commanding the bludgeoning toy cabinet, “Thus far, and no further!”

To all my fellow comrades in this unending and unyielding and unrelenting battle, deep in the trenches of bathroom scum removal, we have but one hope.

That our kids will quickly learn the ropes of housework and relieve us of some of the agony.

Heh heh heh.

(Just another long ranting post from my “Being a SAHM” series!)

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Fave Fridays: Mummy Bloggers

Fave Fridays

Starting a brand new series on the blog, called “Fave Fridays”, and like the name, it is basically about introducing some of your favourite things – name one, list ten, it is all up to you! It can be your favourite restaurant, your favourite make-up product, your kids’ favourite catch-phrase… anything really!

And let me kick-start this series with my list of favourite mummy bloggers. I reckon you might know a few on this list too!

SANses.com’s list of Favourite Singapore Mummy Bloggers (in no particular order):

#1: Mum’s The Word 

Jiahui blogs so honestly, I absolutely love her! She shares candidly about her life with three kids – and she is my inspiration online and offline too.

#2: Mummy Moo

Regina is another kick-ass mummy blogger. She works full time and yet still finds time to look absolutely fab. The hair, dah-ling, is fabmoolous especially!

#3: Mother, Inc

Daphne has 4 kids. And blogs. And still looks as young and cool as ever. Sigh. Her light-hearted posts (and cute kids) always make my day. Oh, if my boys can pose as well as Tru & Kirs, I might die a happy mummy blogger. Haha!

#4: Gingerbreadmum

Hmm – I have no idea why she calls her blog this, actually, but Adora is one cool mom. I am a SAHM, she’s a SAHM. But she manages to do so much cool stuff with her two girls. Oops. Those who can, blog about it. Those who can’t (like moi), can read in envy! Haha!

#5: A Happy Mum

What is not to love about a parenting blog that is so positively positive? Summmer loves motherhood, and her enthusiasm and brightness shines through on the blog – I love to read her blog cos it inspires me to be a better (and happier) mom too!

I have loads more on my almost daily blog stalking reading list, but here’s my top 5 list!

I hope you will come and join in on my Fave Fridays linky – which will run every week. Grab the button and link away!

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Thankful Thursday

I’ve seen the 5-day Thankfulness Challenge going on on my friends’ Facebook statuses. Having a thankful heart is important. It grounds us, gives us renewed focus on the good in our lives, and makes light a heavy heart. After some ‘heavy’ posts, I reckon it is time to lighten up the mood and get some thanksgiving going on!

This week, I am giving thanks for these things:

#1: I am thankful for Zoie adjusting like a dream to childcare. Despite my initial anxiety about placing her in childcare, and she had two weeks of fussiness, she has now gotten used to the teachers, and goes without a fuss. What a sweetheart! Having the morning and mid-afternoon freed up means I have time to do my freelance transcribing and work on my online shop (Missy Stella Australia), which is a great relief!

#2: I am thankful for friends. I received many messages over Facebook and Whatsapp – especially after that cracker of a blog post on some heartfelt musings about what the church is going through, and I am heartened by their kind words. Not all of them are Christians, but they have shown me a lot of grace and understanding. Not all are from the same church or who completely understand the situation, but nonetheless I am thankful that even when they don’t have all the answers, they have chosen to love and pray, not just for me but for my church as well.

#3: I am thankful for the past year of adventure of living in Sydney. It has been challenging. It has been tiring. There has been a lot of housework done. But I am so, so thankful to have this chance to come over and experience a change of pace and a chance of scenery.

How about you? What are you thankful for this week?

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Happiness Is A Choice

It was a rainy Saturday morning, and I was supposed to bring Xavier and Zoie for a birthday party for one of their friends at the childcare centre. Jayvon wanted to go for his soccer practice as usual, so the hubby had to drop me and the two kids off earlier, so they would not miss soccer practice.

It was rainy. Big fat plops of rain. And the church hall seemed closed (we were 30 minutes early), so I decided to take refuge at the playground just opposite the church.

Little good that did. The canopy over the playground did little in keeping the rain out, and there I was, with two kids, one flimsy umbrella, and trying to keep us all as dry as possible.

I managed to half-squat, half-kneel at a corner of the play structure, and Xavier took a hold of my umbrella and gave Zoie and I a 5-minute dance rendition.

Xav Aug 2014

Yes, it was raining. Yes, the wind was blowing crazily. Yes, it was just 5 minutes.

But my little sunshine totally made our morning with his infectious smile and his funky dance moves.

And life rains, sometimes. Dark clouds gather. Bad things loom. So we need to take life head on, one dance step at a time.

Because happiness is a choice.

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